Hi i’m Kara,

I am a 34-year-old married Mum of 2.

Hi i’m kara,

I am a 32-year-old married Mum of 2.

My husband and I have been together for 14 years and have a 2 year old girl and a 3-year-old boy. 

I have always been maternal. I knew from a young age I wanted kids. Dreamed of the day I’d own my own home, have a husband and kids.

The moment hubby and I got married we knew we wanted to start a family. 

After about a year of trying and nothing happening we decided to look into it further to see why we weren’t getting pregnant.

It was suspected I had Endometriosis

Unfortunately, the only way to be diagnosed is via a laparoscopy which meant surgery. If endometriosis was found it would be removed. Although it can be removed the disease is not curable and can grow back which can mean multiple surgeries for the rest of my life.

Endometriosis is when the lining of your uterus sheds back inside your body instead of exiting your body during your period. This can cause debilitating pain, long heavy periods, growths on organs, and more commonly infertility. 

In the weeks leading up to my surgery, all I did was google endometriosis and all I could see was the word infertility.  Of course, i thought the worst and thought I’d never be able to have my own kids and was devastated!

I’d never been in hospital before so being taken Into surgery was the scariest thing I’d faced. But I knew that if there was a chance that by removing the endometriosis I could have a baby I was going to take it!

I was taken into surgery and when I woke up and came to it was confirmed I did have it and it was aggressive. Aggressive endometriosis can wrap its self around organs (like a vine) and mine had wrapped itself around my Bowels which was causing extreme pain!

My amazing gynecologist was confident she had got most of it and said that if I’m going to fall it will generally happen within the next 3-6 months. As my endo was aggressive I was told that it could grow back quickly and may need more surgeries.

“I thought the worst and thought I’d never be able to have my own kids and was devastated”

Fast forward 7 months. I still wasn’t pregnant and I was exhausted and emotionally damaged after seeing a big fat negative on the pregnancy test month after month. 

It was suggested to try blood tracking first for 2 months so we could confirm I was ovulating. After the second month, I got a phone call while at work one morning. I took the call in a private office and the voice on the other end said, “congratulations, you’re pregnant”….. holy hell I could not believe it! 

After a rough start, I almost lost the baby due to dropping progesterone levels. It was decided I’d go on progesterone pessaries and thankfully scans and the rest of the pregnancy went well and I had a beautiful surprise baby boy!

When he was 8 months old we got the absolute surprise of our life to find out we were expecting again and this time a baby girl!

So at this point life was feeling pretty complete.

Hubby and I decided I would stop work to stay at home with the kids. Although things would be tight we knew I’d never get the time back with the kids so decided to give it a go.

The 17 month age gap at first was okay, my newborn slept most of the time so I had time to spend with my boy. As time went on and she started getting older things got harder.

I was at the point where I started losing my temper, getting snappy and distancing myself from my husband, and feeling very vacant.

We had moved house to accommodate me stopping work but it meant I was another 30 mins away from friends and family.

I never knew that considering you are never alone (even to pee haha) motherhood is incredibly lonely! I found myself calling my husband all the time to try just chat but as he was so busy with work he couldn’t talk and I felt myself getting more and more alone and depressed. Longing for a friend or someone that knew what I was going through.

I turned to some mum groups online and joined my local mum group and discovered there were a lot of Mums were feeling this way! A lot were posting asking if anyone wanted to catch up if they were in the area.

Whether it be that their friends are far away or don’t have kids or even that their kids are different ages I noticed there were a lot of mum’s lonely and needing to reach out to someone to just go grab a coffee and let the kids play on the playground or even someone to just chat to…. (you know have an adult conversation before your brain turns to mush!)

That’s where I came up with the idea of a forum where mums can meet mums in the area.
I want to create a safe space where mums can get non-judgemental advice, suggestions, make friends, and help each other out!!

Because after all, we’re all in this together!

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